Just the TIP Tuesday - Be Real
Just the TIP Tuesday - One tip at a time
Bringing you weekly TIP’s on Transformation, Inspiration, and Purpose.
005. Be Real
Howdy y’all! Thanks for taking the time to tip toe on over to my blog today! I am really excited about today’s Just the TIP Tuesday because it pertains to something I am currently going through in my life. The tip is BE REAL!
I thought this was a very fitting TIP for this Tuesday as tomorrow is the finale of Catching Kelce, a reality dating show where 50 women compete for 1 man. I happen to be one of those ladies!
There is usually a lot of question regarding how real reality TV really is and I am here to tell you it definitely isn’t always exactly what is seems due to editing BUT it is REAL! And you have the choice to remain true to who you are. The casting directors even tell you to “be yourself” – that is why they chose us to begin with.
For many people though, the moment the cameras start rolling they lose themselves. They think they need to be someone else to be seen. They are willing to set aside morals and values to “win” a title. By that, I mean they are willing to do just about anything to make it to the top, including lying, stealing, cheating and manipulating.
Many people have asked me how I was able to stay strong in a house full of girls competing for the same man. A house where girls thought putting others down would make them look better. A house where I was personally bullied, and labeled as bland, basic and boring. A house where we had our music, books, phones and technology taken away so that we wouldn’t have any outlet from the drama and would hopefully eventually be broken down.
I won’t say it was easy but I was able to get through the process by staying true to myself and being REAL. I wanted to be the REAL in REALity!
To do this – I followed Don Miguel Ruiz’s Four Agreements
BE IMPECCABLE WITH YOUR WORD
- Speak with integrity.
- Say only what you mean.
- Avoid using the Word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others.
- Use the power of your Word in the direction of truth and love.
DON’T TAKE ANYTHING PERSONALLY
- Nothing others do is because of you.
- What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream.
- When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.
DON’T MAKE ASSUMPTIONS
- Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want.
- Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama.
- With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
ALWAYS DO YOUR BEST
-Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick.
-Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.
In our busy, very superficial world, there's a lot of fakery, deception, and contrived perfection; we're all trying to live up to certain images and ideals and in the process lose something of our "true selves." But it is possible to be true to yourself and the people around you.
Realness may require you to do things that will be unpopular with other people. You may also have to acknowledge aspects of yourself that are less favorable, but this is important because acknowledging what you value or do not value about yourself leads you to live an open and honest -- and more real -- life.
Today I will leave you with some words a wise man (my grandfather) once told me that have always stuck with me…"the cream will always rise to the TOP!" To me, the cream is the realness and as long as you ‘keep it real’ you will eventually rise to the TOP!
You all rock! Be you! Be real!